12 STEPS AND 8 PRINCIPLES
Principle 1
Realized I’m not God; I was able to admit that I am powerless to control my tendency to do the wrong thing and my life was unmanageable.
“Happy are those that are spiritually poor.” Matthew 5:3 (GN)
(The Christ-centered 12 steps are included because so many of those attending Celebrate Recovery have come from a 12 step background. You will easily see how the 12 steps fit and are covered by Celebrate Recovery’s Eight Recovery Principles, based on the Beatitudes).
I was at Step 1:
I admitted I was powerless over my addictions and compulsive behaviors. That my life had become unmanageable.
I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. (Romans 7:18, NIV)
My life was out of control. It was an October morning, and I was in Salt Lake City on a business trip. I woke up and I knew I couldn’t take another drink. But, I also knew that I couldn’t live without one! I had finally hit my bottom. I made it back to Orange County and went to my first AA meeting. I started going to AA meetings daily. I went to over 90 meetings in 90 days. As the days passed I became ready for…..
Principle 2
Earnestly believe that God exists, that I matter to him, and that he has the power to help me recover.
“Happy are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted.” (Matthew 5:4, JB)
Step 2:
I came to believe that a power greater than me could restore me to sanity.
“For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.” (Philippians 2:13, NIV)
This is where I began to find hope! I finally understood that God loves me unconditionally. I was finally able to understand Romans 11:13: “… that everything comes from God alone. Everything comes from his power.”
My own willpower left me empty and broken. I had to change my definition of willpower.
For me, willpower became the willingness to except God’s power for my life. This led me to…..
Principle 3
Consciously choose to commit all my life and will to Christ’s care and control.
“Happy are the meek.” (Matthew 5:5, GN)
In working the first three principles, I said, “I can’t, God can.” And I decided to let him. One day at a time. You see, if we don’t surrender to Christ, we will surrender to chaos! When I took the third principle (Step 3) I surrendered, completely. I was truly broken.
In Step 3:
I made a decision to turn my life and my will over to the care of God.
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship.” (Romans 12:1, NIV)
God found a loving, gentle, sponsor for me who guided me on my road to recovery.
I can still remember kneeling with my sponsor praying the third step prayer. He helped me stay balanced and didn’t judge me. I learned quickly that this recovery program, this journey, is not meant to be traveled alone.
I thought the first 3 principles (steps) were hard, but now came the fourth principle where I had to:
Principle 4
Openly examine and confess my faults to God, to myself, and another person whom I trust.
“Happy are the pure in heart.” (Matthew 5:8)
I had to go back and visit that young boy in high school and finally face all the hurts, hang ups, and habits that I had attempted to drown with alcohol for all those empty years. I had to face the loss of my brother as an infant. I began to see my part in all the destruction that my alcoholism had caused to all those you were once close to me.
When I got to Principle 4 I was ready to:
Step 4
Make a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself.
“Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord.” (Lamentations 3:40, NIV)
And in Step 5:
I admitted to God, to myself, and to another human being, the exact nature of my wrongs.
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” (James 5:16, NIV)
After I “fessed up” I was able to face the truth of my past – for the first time in my life.
I finally was able to accept Jesus’ forgiveness, which lead me out of the darkness of my secrets and into his wonderful light! I cannot begin to tell you the burden that God lifted off me when I completed Christ’s instructions found in James 5:16!
After completing the 4th principle, all of the sins and wrongs of my past were no longer a secret. Now I was finally willing to have God change me. I was at principle 5. In fact, I was ready to:
Principle 5
Voluntarily submit to any and all changes God wanted me to make in my life.
“Happy are those whose greatest desire is to do what God requires.” (Matthew 5:6)
I had to let go and let God. You see, not much changed in my life – just everything.
I had to allow God to transform my mind – its nature, its condition, its identity. I allowed him to rebuild my self-worth based on his love for me, not trying any longer to measure up by the world’s standards and always falling short.
In Step 6:
I was entirely ready to have God remove all my defects of character.
“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up.” (James 4:10, NIV)
Step 7:
I humbly asked him to remove all my shortcomings.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9, NIV)
I asked God to work on my defects of character so that I could finally mature and become more Christ-like. It was during this time that God gave me his definition of humility found in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10:
“My grace is all you need, for my power is strongest when you are weak. I am most happy then, to be proud of my weakness. For when I am weak then I am strong.”
I had to learn to rejoice in “steady progress.” Patient improvement. Others could see the changes in me that I could not. I was beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel and this time it wasn’t a train.
It was my favorite:
Principle 6
Evaluate all my relationships; offer forgiveness to those who have hurt me and make amends for the harm I’ve done to others when possible, without expecting any reward.
“Happy are the merciful.” (Matthew 5:7, JB)
“Happy are the peacemakers.” (Matthew 5:9, JB)
Step 8:
I made a list of all persons I had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
“Do to others as you would have them do to you.” (Luke 6:31, NIV)
Step 9:
I made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.” (Matthew 5:23-24, NIV)
Principle 7
Reserve a daily quiet time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer in order to know God and his will for my life and gain the power to do it.
Principle 8:
Yield myself to God to bring his good news to others, both by my example and by my words.
“Happy are those who are persecuted because they do what God requires.” (Matthew 5:10, GN)
Step 10:
I will continue to take personal inventory, and when I am wrong, promptly admit it.
That part – promptly – is still hard for me.
“So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!” (1 Corinthians 10:12, NIV)
And in Step 11:
I seek through prayer and meditation to improve my conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of his will for me and power to carry that out.
“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly…” (Colossians 3:16, NIV)
And finally in Step 12:
Having had a spiritual experience as the result of these steps, I pledge to carry this message to others, and practice these principles in all my affairs.
“Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.” (Galatians 6:1, NIV)
